Was talking to Terence some time last week?
And one of us mentioned that we need friends or in this case, schoolmates that are supportive of us so that we can have the motivation and support to do what we want/live our university life to the fullest.
True eh?
I used to have such a huge group of friends in Deyi who will always be there. Urging me to do things. Motivating me. Helping me push the boundaries of my comfort zone. Maybe that's why I was involved in some many activities in Deyi. My secondary school life was nothing short of colorful.
Back then, we help each other to build our self-confidence.
Somehow, I can't seem to find a group of such "supportive" friends in NYJC or NTU. In these two places, all I got was "No! You can't!", "No, you shouldn't" and rejections/letdowns in all forms and types. Verbal or non-verbal. Expressed or not expressed. In these two places, whenever I am motivated, taking the initiative and just being the old me, I find myself in a situation where I end up doing all the work or being used/taken advantage of.
Now, it seems like people use your confidence as a stepping stone. They squash it to boost theirs.
The result? A very diluted me.
I know I can still be the old me but it needs to be modified. Like what Juan said, "Don't let your groupmates feel too comfortable to the point whereby they think it is okay for them to dump their work on you".
But how do I do that? 我不会. Does that mean that I should never give my 100% in everything I do? That by not giving my 100%, my groupmates will then give theirs? If that's the case, I can't do it. 办不到.
I don't know how to let these squash-ers not affect me. Because of reasons that I don't even know how to explain.
I'm a perfectionist. If I set my mind on doing something, I will give my everything. I do not tolerate moderate effort or minimal effort. From myself or ANY of my group mates.
Yeah. That's me. What you see is what you get.
The conclusion is abit abrupt because I lost my train of thoughts-.-
Will I ever find these supportive group of friends before I graduate? Frankly, at this point in time, I really don't care. One more year and it's BYE BYE, NTU!
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To: FYP mates
Please check your hotmail/yahoo mail. I have sent something to you guys.
If you have yet to collect the "Naked Conversation" book from me, please do so asap. I do not care if you have to travel down all the way from the West to my place. Get the freaking book from me, read it and at least get some ideas about how corporations (big and small) are using blogs.
Reminder - Keep as many days as possible free for the week starting 5th May. We are going to meet and set down a general guideline and structure for our frigging FYP and then pitch it to Ulrike. Yes, in the same week. If there are SPECIFIC days that you cannot make it, please let all of us know beforehand.
Note - Almost everything comes AFTER FYP meetings. Unless you are giving tuition or some family-related stuff, you cannot be excused from the meeting.
Am I a little pissed? Yes, I am. And don't even try to pacify me with some lame jokes or some stupid smiley face. Not going to work. GAIN. MY. TRUST. Let me trust that you guys can work.
At stake: EIGHT FREAKING AUS. (I'm sure I don't need to remind you that).
And one of us mentioned that we need friends or in this case, schoolmates that are supportive of us so that we can have the motivation and support to do what we want/live our university life to the fullest.
True eh?
I used to have such a huge group of friends in Deyi who will always be there. Urging me to do things. Motivating me. Helping me push the boundaries of my comfort zone. Maybe that's why I was involved in some many activities in Deyi. My secondary school life was nothing short of colorful.
Back then, we help each other to build our self-confidence.
Somehow, I can't seem to find a group of such "supportive" friends in NYJC or NTU. In these two places, all I got was "No! You can't!", "No, you shouldn't" and rejections/letdowns in all forms and types. Verbal or non-verbal. Expressed or not expressed. In these two places, whenever I am motivated, taking the initiative and just being the old me, I find myself in a situation where I end up doing all the work or being used/taken advantage of.
Now, it seems like people use your confidence as a stepping stone. They squash it to boost theirs.
The result? A very diluted me.
I know I can still be the old me but it needs to be modified. Like what Juan said, "Don't let your groupmates feel too comfortable to the point whereby they think it is okay for them to dump their work on you".
But how do I do that? 我不会. Does that mean that I should never give my 100% in everything I do? That by not giving my 100%, my groupmates will then give theirs? If that's the case, I can't do it. 办不到.
I don't know how to let these squash-ers not affect me. Because of reasons that I don't even know how to explain.
I'm a perfectionist. If I set my mind on doing something, I will give my everything. I do not tolerate moderate effort or minimal effort. From myself or ANY of my group mates.
Yeah. That's me. What you see is what you get.
The conclusion is abit abrupt because I lost my train of thoughts-.-
Will I ever find these supportive group of friends before I graduate? Frankly, at this point in time, I really don't care. One more year and it's BYE BYE, NTU!
--
To: FYP mates
Please check your hotmail/yahoo mail. I have sent something to you guys.
If you have yet to collect the "Naked Conversation" book from me, please do so asap. I do not care if you have to travel down all the way from the West to my place. Get the freaking book from me, read it and at least get some ideas about how corporations (big and small) are using blogs.
Reminder - Keep as many days as possible free for the week starting 5th May. We are going to meet and set down a general guideline and structure for our frigging FYP and then pitch it to Ulrike. Yes, in the same week. If there are SPECIFIC days that you cannot make it, please let all of us know beforehand.
Note - Almost everything comes AFTER FYP meetings. Unless you are giving tuition or some family-related stuff, you cannot be excused from the meeting.
Am I a little pissed? Yes, I am. And don't even try to pacify me with some lame jokes or some stupid smiley face. Not going to work. GAIN. MY. TRUST. Let me trust that you guys can work.
At stake: EIGHT FREAKING AUS. (I'm sure I don't need to remind you that).
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